In January, Francis and Lisa Chan celebrated 25 years of marriage. Francis says the secret to having a God-honoring relationship—more than communication or any relational tips—is first being deeply in love with God. That opens the doors to be a giver, not a taker, with your spouse.
Francis says, “What we have found in marriage is … we find so much security when we wake up every day in awe, like I can’t believe you said that about me. God, I can’t believe you delight me. You delight in me and you call me a member of your body, and you are I are one? Then it’s like, ‘What do I need from this?’ [referring to his spouse].
“Instead, I’m a giver now. Because of everything that God’s given me. I love learning about marriage and learning about how to communicate better, but at the core of everything, it has to be you being an individual who is blown away that you are one with God. That is going to bring more to your marriage than anything else.”
